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A Quick Cognitive Test

Today's message is two-fold. Running across this blog and the cognitive test could be your next step. The second message is learn tunnel vision, simply do what is in front of you and don't worry about the rest. One thing at a time will keep you moving forward. First,...

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It’s Easy To Get Faked Out

  Yesterday, I received a call from Brookdale Senior Living saying that they were running low on Ducolax, a medication that Mom takes.  I supply this for her because it is an over-the-counter item I can buy in bulk and one that Brookdale can distribute to Mom...

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The Stag Who Brought Comfort

A very odd and unfortunate scenario unfolded a few months ago which involved a family acquaintance passing away.  My mother had known this deceased person since 1st grade when they went to grammar school together.  They remained friends all their lives until he...

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Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day this year was as unpredictable as any other day and quite different from the scenario at Easter.  Mom’s moods vary with this disease from day-to-day.  Therefore, what works for me to navigate around one day, or even one minute, doesn’t work another, not...

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When Personal Hygiene Takes a Back Seat

Mom’s personal hygiene has declined more than usual lately.  She hugged me hello, and both she and her apartment smelled off.  I was also very troubled to see the sweat suit she was wearing be riddled with holes and food stains. The strongest source of the smell came...

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Easter Sunday

It’s been a while since I’ve written. I’ve mentioned this before, but I didn’t realize how difficult it would be to blog about Mom with dementia.  It’s hard enough living through it.  I didn’t realize the full impact of how hard it would be to share and re-live an...

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Embracing Change

Today's offering comes from Sue Green.   The surreal world I live in Thrust there over night It was a stroke that hit him Since then just nothing's right   The frustration of it all The many hats I wear The tasks that never end The new roles that I bear...

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We Can All Use Help Like This…

I’ve always been an advocate for giving the mind and body a break during our daily endeavor of caregiving. This visual will do that and also make your heart swell in a matter of 2 minutes, 15 seconds. Enjoy- [video width="400" height="400"...

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Never Underestimate the Power of a Smile

One of my favorite quotes from Meister Eckhart Tolle is, “If the only prayer you say in your life is ‘Thank you,’ that will be enough.” I believe this to be true with all my heart. I also believe, from experience, that when a smile crosses my face, it changes me.  I...

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The Birthday Gift

Today is my 54th birthday.  It's barely daybreak and I ran across Ashley Campbell’s song, “Remember.” As I sit at my desk listening to her words and music, I look up, and perfectly centered out my picture window is a plane traveling eastward ascending towards the sky....

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Wonka’s Golden Ticket – a POA

Recently, two friends of mine found themselves stalled, or derailed, while trying to take care of an important matter for their loved one. One involves a medical matter, the other, a banking issue.  Neither has a document in place known as a Power of Attorney (POA)...

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Overwhelm*Over Time*and Time Itself

“Pick one thing, Laurel.  Just one task to take care of this morning,” I said when listening to my friend. Laurel had just finished telling me about the mental and physical state of her Aunt Jenna.  The list was grim, and extensive, and had been going on for almost a...

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Acceptance Can Really Bite

A very good friend of mine, Carol, is in the beginning stages of taking care of her mother with dementia.  It began suddenly Christmas Eve when her mother took a fall.  The result was an ambulance ride to the ER and then her mother spending over a week in the...

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A Personal Home Remedy

Today’s offering comes directly from a book I found valuable and beneficial.  Unfortunately, I was unaware of this book until a few years into caring for Mom.  I wish I had these insights from the beginning.  You will find the book information at the end of this blog....

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I Forgive You Forget A Caregiver's Resource

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